Guys, yes, this is mainly for you today. Ladies, if you know a man, please share this with him.
There is an old saying…”The first step is admitting you have a problem.” It comes from the twelve step program.
For a person with thoughts of suicide or one who struggles with depression and anxiety, I believe (again, this is just my two cents here) the first step is getting the cajones (ie; nerve, ba**s) to ask for help in admitting there is a problem!
You may think this too harsh, especially coming from a pastor’s point of view. I’m supposed to be a loving, gentle and caring individual who sits with you and tells you stories of puppy dogs and butterflies and how everything will be alright, right?
Let’s look at it this way…
Your house is on fire…I’m standing in the street…you are unaware that there is imminent danger…do you want me to quietly and gently tell you from the street in my best “counseling” voice that you are in trouble? Or would you rather I jump to action, scream my butt off to get your attention and get you and those you love out safe?
Well, there is another imminent danger for men…
The largest percentage of completed suicides in our country right now are men ages 45-85!!!
Let me repeat that…
MEN AGES 45-85 ARE COMPLETING MORE SUICIDES THAN ANY OTHER AGE GROUP!!!
Anyone ready to admit there is a problem? Anyone ready to join in with jumping to action and getting others to safety?
I wasn’t…not just a few months ago. Then I did because my world was coming apart.
WHAT? A pastor with problems? Say it ain’t so!
SORRY…the problems and struggles that those in the pastorate have are causing between 1400-1700 servants to leave the ministry every month!
Most of those in ministry leadership are men. Men are fixers. Men don’t ask for help. I didn’t want to, but I did. (Check out my journey starting here.)
Seriously, we men don’t even like to ask for directions, the GPS has been the best invention in recent history!
Men, if you are struggling with depression, anxiety, frustration, anger, loneliness, or anything else like that, admit it and ask for help. Talk to your doctor or health care provider.
And don’t just think that a little pill for E.D. will help. That will only give you a temporary “fix” to a deeper issue! That’s not being a true man. Life is NOT like the commercials!
So guys…MAN UP…admit there is a problem…get help…get some cojones…you’ll be glad you did.
Thanks for coming by and hanging with this shepherd’s stance today and letting me rant!